Tuesday, October 20, 2020

A Family Reunion, A Fashion Show, A Celebration Of Blackness: Why HBCU Homecoming Is So Important

Every October, historically Black college and university (HBCU) alumni flock to their alma maters to reunite with classmates, party in fierce fits, and cheer on their football teams. There’s homecoming and then there’s HBCU homecoming: a family reunion, a cookout, a fashion show, a physical and spiritual baptism in Blackness all rolled into one. 

HBCU homecoming has come to mean so much more than showing school spirit — it’s evolved into a weeklong celebration that honors a legacy steeped in history and a lineage of Black predecessors who have paved a way for all those who come after them.

But this year, due to the pandemic, homecoming as we know it is canceled — leaving many HBCU grads feeling homesick, even in spite of online get-togethers. No virtual event could ever take the place of coming back to campus, reveling in the energy and excitement, and reuniting with lifelong friends. That’s why we partnered with Target to speak to three HBCU alumnae about what homecoming means to them and why attending an HBCU was so important to their lives and careers. Meet our digital homecoming court: Gabrielle Corrica (Spelman College), Aisha Johnson (Howard University), and Asia Milia (Hampton University).

Gabrielle Corrica
Spelman College, class of 2016

When it was time to head to college, Gabrielle Corrica was more than ready to put some serious miles between her hometown and her campus. “I grew up in Riverside, CA, which is a suburb about an hour away from East LA. It’s a pretty anti-Black environment, and I was over it,” Corrica says from her apartment in New York City. 

Choosing to attend an HBCU was a no-brainer — she was eager to escape the micro and macro aggressions she’d faced in her predominantly white high school and community. Corrica applied to three schools, including Atlanta-based Spelman College, her now alma mater. Spelman and Howard University’s business programs made a huge impression on the teen, but for Corrica, HU couldn’t compete with Spelman’s all-women student body. 

“There was the promise of sisterhood,” Corrica says with pride. “Spelman was created for and dedicated to the education of Black women and there’s no other institution, other than Bennett College, that has that.”

At Spelman, where she was an economics major, Corrica didn’t feel like she was the exception to the rule. She was the standard who was challenged, instead of underestimated, by classmates and professors. After graduating in 2016, alumni support helped the web designer and brand strategist navigate her way through corporate America gigs to full-time entrepreneurship.

While she didn’t plan to attend homecoming this year — Corrica is anxiously awaiting her five-year reunion — she was heartbroken that COVID-19 interrupted the fun for others. “For so many alums, it’s a family reunion,” she says. “It’s a chance to reunite and love each other and share memories, but it’s also a way to celebrate the legacy and the power of our institutions.”

Some homecoming shenanigans are still fresh in her mind. As a freshman, Corrica was part of her dorm’s Stroll team and even though they didn’t win the competition, she bonded with her teammates. They still remember the dances like it was yesterday, which obviously means a stroll line will pop up if they’re together in the club. 

Next year, if things are safer and homecoming is hosted again as planned, Corrica plans to overpack for the event. It’s a must, she says, to have an ensemble of head-turning looks to take her from coronation to the step show to the football game to tailgate to the party. “You get automatic cool points,” she says about returning to the yard as an alum. “Your sunglasses sit a little different on your face. You walk around like you’ve been through some things, but you’re still here.” 

Although it’s too early to think about those five-year reunion details, Corrica is hopeful that’ll include a “big brunch and big bottles” situation, toasting Spelman’s legacy of academic excellence and ethical leadership. 

“We’re instilled with the idea that it’s our responsibility to pull as we climb, to create more opportunities. It’s our responsibility to protect each other. We are all we got,” says Corrica, feeling sentimental. “I think about how I can pull up others, even as I’m finding my footing as a young entrepreneur.”

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Aisha Johnson
Howard University, class of 2011

Attending an HBCU wasn’t exactly part of Aisha Johnson’s college plan; Black colleges weren’t on her immigrant family’s radar. Their eyes were on the Ivy League or other predominately white institutions, places they could tell folks about back in Jamaica. But a family friend suggested Johnson check out Washington, D.C.-based Howard University, which she did, along with other local schools in her Florida hometown. When acceptances came through, and the scholar-athlete was accepted to the University of Florida, a classmate claimed that Johnson was merely an “affirmative action” pick.

Those words stung, especially since she’d worked hard to earn stellar grades and excel at track. That exchange with her classmate solidified Johnson’s decision to attend an HBCU. “I had to prove them wrong. I knew for a fact that I could go to an amazing school and it would have nothing to do with affirmative action,” Johnson says. She chose Howard University because of its noteworthy journalism program and decided to concentrate on public relations.

“At Howard, I wasn’t just the best Black person, I was one of the best amongst the best. It really helped me feel a greater sense of pride and confidence, because I didn’t have to deal with that overlying feeling of race,” Johnson says. “I could assert myself in different ways and not think about how I’m going to be perceived or whether someone felt like I deserve to be there.”

Now, as a digital content creator with an emphasis on self-care, she’s part of a HU network that shares information. “That’s something I’m grateful for. We’re not the type to be crabs in a barrel. There’s this sense of camaraderie and we’re willing to help each other,” says Johnson, noting that she hired a HU grad at her last corporate job. 

The only reason the 2011 grad isn’t completely devastated about missing homecoming this year is because she and her Alpha Kappa Alpha (AKA) sorority sisters celebrated their line’s 10th anniversary last year, complete with a movie trailer, Instagram page, and matching jackets. But because people are paying more attention to “HBCUs, Black people, and Black culture in a way that’s less about appropriation and more about learning,” she believes homecoming would’ve been major this year. 

Howard’s homecoming would’ve certainly definitely hit differently with 2020’s Democratic candidate for vice president, who is also an AKA, a Howard grad, and has Jamaican roots. Johnson says she’s “never felt more seen” by the nomination. 

Homecoming with Johnson’s line sisters is especially meaningful because they can reminisce about their glory days of winning the Neo Stroll competition and being Sorority of the Year — or that time one famous Canadian rapper popped up for a surprise Yardfest performance. If COVID-19 hadn’t interrupted everything, Johnson would’ve been raiding her closet for cute outfits to wear to the step show, tailgate, or Sunday brunch with friends who are now lawyers, doctors, and CEOs.

“You won’t catch me in a plain dress. I’m going to have my legs out and I’m going to give you a statement sleeve, or a cool print and a bold lip,” Johnson says. “It has to be curated and statement-making.”

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Asia Milia
Hampton University, class of 2017

Although Asia Milia had a lot of friends at her small high school, she didn’t truly feel seen. Sure, she was homecoming queen and mastered difficult routines as a member of her school’s step crew, but in the classroom she was one of two Black students. When it came to college, Milia was determined to find a new school family, one where the students looked like her but also came from all different experiences.

Attending an HBCU had been on Milia’s mental vision board since elementary school, and the Virginia-based Hampton University had an edge over the competition because her cousin had attended it, deeming it “the real HU.”

“I knew there was going to be an amazing alumni network and Black students who were achieving great things,” says the native New Yorker. “There’s nothing like an HBCU family.”

Although Milia was initially intimidated by Hampton’s upperclassmen’s success, she followed their lead and made big moves of her own. During her senior year, she left Hampton for two weeks to be a Fashion Week intern. She credits the school for giving her the mettle to grab that real-world experience before graduation. 

“I think [the school] feeds that hustler mentality,” Milia says. “When you have your mind set on something and you have the confidence to believe in yourself, there’s no way you’re not going to accomplish everything you set out to do.”

That HU connection also helped Milia secure an internship at a national women’s magazine after she earned her strategic communications degree. A fellow Hampton grad slid her résumé to the right person and Milia stayed at the beauty and fashion bible for more than a year, often working with the editor-in-chief. It was there that a then-fashion and beauty editor-at-large (and a fellow HBCU alumna) gave the newbie advice and took her out for a celebratory-meets-business kiki when Milia snagged her current gig at a different popular magazine.

It’s been three years since she’s graduated, and she’s particularly heartbroken that homecoming has been canceled this year. “I was really looking forward to this year. I feel like I finally have my life together,” says the editorial assistant, who’s committed to carving out a space online for curvy Black girls. “Homecoming is our family reunion and to skip a whole year of that hurts. Coming out of summer, homecoming is the vibe we all need. It’s about seeing everyone you spent four years with and catching up with them outside of social media.”

With so many Hampton undergrads watching Milia’s moves on social media, she knew there’d be pressure to make sure that her homecoming looks would meet or exceed her fashion presence on Instagram. Once, she opened a credit card just to charge a pair of red thigh-high boots because she wanted to style it with a camo jacket for homecoming. Every fit has to be carefully coordinated based on the weekend’s events, Milia insists, including parties, brunches, and run-ins with exes. 

“You have to have your brightest outfit for the yard on Friday. You need heels, but they better be comfortable. You can wear sneakers on Saturday for tailgate,” Milia says, listing everything she would have packed for homecoming. “But which sneakers are they going to be? Because people are going to be looking.”

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Elevate Your Fall Wardrobe With These 21 Chunky Boots

In 2020, despite most things in life still being extremely unclear, there is one fact we know to be true: the chunkier your boots are this fall, the better. Unlike year's past, when slinky stiletto-heeled boots would've been a perfect match for our fall wardrobe, we're now turning toward clunkier, more durable boots that'll stand up against the cold and rainy weather. As an added bonus, they're far more comfortable than the usual standard — a quality that's been at the top of our wardrobe checklists ever since lockdown began.

Thankfully, there's no shortage of options when it comes to chunky boots this year. From knee-high Wellies courtesy of Ganni to lug-soled biker boots from & Other Stories, the shoe brands we know and love aren't messing around. So to help you narrow down your options and find that one perfect pair of supersized boots to tackle this fall and winter in, we rounded up 21 pairs of chunky boots to get your feet in now.

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ASOS DESIGN Rachel Chunky Chelsea Boots, $, available at ASOSPhoto Courtesy of ASOS.


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Jeffrey Campbell Check Lace-Up Boot, $, available at Free PeoplePhoto Courtesy of Free People.


& Other Stories Topstitched Tall Leather Boots, $, available at & Other StoriesPhoto Courtesy of & Other Stories.


Ganni Recycled Rubber Country Boot, $, available at Ganni


Nine West Arde Casual Booties, $, available at Nine West


ATP Catania Chunky Boots, $, available at Verishop


Zara Low-Heeled Leather Tall Boots, $, available at Zara


allegra k Combat Block Heel Ankle Boots, $, available at Walmart


EYTYS Black Rocco Boots, $, available at SSENSE


Everlane The Rain Boot, $, available at EverlanePhoto Courtesy of Everlane.


Timberland Kori Park Moto Boot, $, available at NordstromPhoto Courtesy of Opening Ceremony.


Alice + Whittles The Weekend Boot, $, available at MadewellPhoto Courtesy of Zara.


Chloé Betty Rubber Boots, $, available at Net-A-PorterPhoto Courtesy of Net-a-Porter.


H&M Canvas Sneaker-Style Boots, $, available at H&MPhoto Courtesy of H&M.


Ugg SID Boots, $, available at Ugg


The Source Unknown High Platform Ankle Boots, Brown & Black, $, available at The Source Unknown


Nasty Gal Give 'Em the Boot Chunky Boot, $, available at Nasty Gal


Dr. Martens 2976 Quad Chelsea Boot, $, available at Urban OutfittersPhoto Courtesy of Urban Outfitters.


R13 Single Stack Suede Boots, $, available at ShopbopPhoto Courtesy of Shopbop.


Blundstone Original Series Water Resistant Chelsea Boot, $, available at NordstromPhoto Courtesy of Nordstrom.

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When we envision the trends of yesteryear, we conjure up images of our favorite supermodels clad in low-rise leather trousers, baggy jeans, and cozy packable jackets designed for camping trips. Like with slip dresses and combat boots, lately, we've been looking to the '90s for retro-style inspiration — and this season's newest trend resurgence is further evidence of just that: fleece fashion.

The sporty-snug-style hybrid is no longer exclusive to hikers, rock climbers, or your middle-school self. Considering the lasting effects of Patagonia, L.L Bean, and The North Face, the fleece's nostalgic appeal isn't going to fade off the fashion scene any time soon — especially when cabincore is all the rage. Fall is here with winter following in its footsteps, so we're all about finding cozy loungewear-adjacent pieces to bundle ourselves up in. We hunted down a number of classic to reimagined fleece styles ahead — from buttery iterations to retro jackets lined with the stuff and even a pair of stretch pants (plus a bucket hat) in fleecey form.

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Columbia Archer Ridge™ II Full Zip Jacket, $, available at Columbia


The North Face ’95 Retro Denali Jacket, $, available at The North Face


Patagonia Los Gatos Fleece Jacket, $, available at Backcountry


LOFT Sherpa Zip Sweatshirt, $, available at LOFT


The North Face Women’s Cragmont Fleece Coat, $, available at The North Face


Columbia Lodge Sherpa Full-Zip Sherpa Pullover, $, available at Dick's Sporting Goods


lululemon Oh So Sherpa Half Zip, $, available at lululemon


L.L. Bean Fleece Zip-Up Sweatshirt, $, available at L.L. Bean


Obey Juniper Pieced Fleece Pullover, $, available at Buckle


outloudvintage Vintage Columbia Radial Sleeve Jacket 90s Fleece Lined, $, available at Etsy


Athleta Tugga Sherpa Jacket, $, available at Athleta


iets frans Contrast Trim Fleece Zip-Through Hoodie, $, available at Urban Outfitters


L.L. Bean Mountain Classic Colorblock Fleece Pullover, $, available at L.L. Bean


Alo Yoga Foxy Sherpa Jacket, $, available at Alo Yoga


Skims Cozy Knit Pants, $, available at Skims


Carhartt White Fleece Northfield Bucket Hat, $, available at SSENSE

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Clothing Of Grief: The Bucket Hat That Helped Me Mourn My Father

The news that my father had passed came in the form of a phone call on a Monday afternoon in August. While I’d been waiting for the call for months — he was terminally ill — I wasn’t prepared for the feeling of waking up with a father and hanging up the phone without one. Among the many initial feelings I felt, all overwhelmed with a sense of numbness, I had the strong urge to find and put on the only thing I had from him with me: a bucket hat, sitting in my bottom drawer. I sat on my bed for the rest of the day with the hat on my head, confused about what to do next. That night, I slept with it beside me. 

The COVID-19 pandemic has changed what it looks like to lose a loved one for many. While my father didn’t die of COVID, the restrictions in his dementia facility made it difficult and, for months, impossible for my family to visit him in his final months. The mandatory quarantine and travel restrictions in New Zealand, where my family is based, meant flying home from the U.S. for the funeral wasn’t an option. Instead, I watched the funeral over FaceTime, his hat in my hand.

During the first month after his death, the only consistent thing about my grieving was the bucket hat. Surrounded by friends that had never met him and unable to hold family, his hat sat on my desk while I attempted to get back to work, went with me on my walks or trips to the beach, and slept next to me in bed. While recording my speech for his funeral, I spoke it to his hat just behind my laptop camera, in an attempt to feel closer to the funeral and, ultimately, to him. 

I wasn’t alone in using an article of clothing to help grieve. While on a walk with my friend Zach, who also lost his father during this time, I noticed that he was wearing a hat I’ve never seen before. When he explained that it was also his father’s cap, we shared a moment in laughing at ourselves for wearing our “dead dad hats.”

Dr. Alan Wolfelt, grief counselor and Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, calls these “linking objects.” “They help link us to the physical presence of the person who died,” he explains. “They’re sort of temporary stand-ins for the person, and they help us feel closer to them, as well as access and express all of our normal grief emotions.” With hundreds of thousands of people losing loved ones from a distance during this time, and being unable to say goodbye due to the safety protocols or travel restrictions in place, Dr. Wolfelt says these objects have become a common response in the grieving process.

“With COVID, we can’t get together, so we’re struggling. We’re still grieving but can’t lean on all the mourning rituals that help us move through our early grief,” he explains. “Without that structure, we tend to feel lost and adrift. In addition to Zoom calls and phone calls, we’re relying more on linking objects and photos.” He notes that while these physical objects are helpful in the grief process, they can’t replace gathering in person to mourn someone. (For this reason, he suggests planning multiple ceremonies, using at-home rituals, and postponing, rather than canceling, in-person gatherings until it’s safe.) 

Anyone that met my dad would not be surprised that the “linking object” I felt naturally drawn to was a hat. A practical and kind man of few words and of few possessions, he would often be seen in it while out in the garden, growing beans and mowing the lawn. In speaking with Zach, I discovered his father’s hat was just one in the pile of items he had put aside, including bowling and work shirts, a stuntman’s hat, and keepsakes from his work in the TV and film, an industry in which Zach works also. 

“The day after my dad passed, the first thing my mom wanted to do was clear out his closet and purge everything so that’s what we did the entire first day,” he said. “A couple of weeks later, my sister and my mom were like, ‘Why did we do that?’” Zach said that he was grateful that he’d put aside some of the items his dad wore when he was his age. “He was probably doing the same thing at my age,” he said. “And I think seeing him and myself in the same clothing was a reminder of that.” 

Dr. Ajita M. Robinson, grief and trauma expert and author of The Gift of Grief, says searching for reminders through objects is normal, noting that the separation caused by the pandemic might have exacerbated the need for a physical or symbolic connection. “For any of us who are visual and need those cues, it helps ground us in the reality of what we’ve lost,” she says. “Although the physical relationship has ended, the spiritual or personal doesn’t ever end.” Physical objects can also help people through one of the biggest fears that arise during the grieving process — that you’ll forget details about your loved one as time passes.

Personally, wearing the hat helped me to confront the grief head-on, something which Dr. Robinson says is important in the long-term. She says that the pandemic has resulted in a “breeding ground for complex grief and trauma,” with not just the death of loved ones impacting our mental health, but also the number of deaths happening as a result of COVID, combined with the symbolic losses that we’re all feeling, such as loss of routine, loss of safety, and loss of normality. “If we’re not able to name the grief or recognize it, it means that it’s just accumulating without resolve,” she explains. “We’re not moving through the grief process, we’re stuck and frozen.”

In this time of collective grief, both Dr. Wolfelt and Dr. Robinson stress the importance of finding personal rituals and connections with communities in order to move through the grieving process. Like all grief, this will look different for everyone. While Dr. Robinson recommends support groups and creative rituals like journaling, my early grieving involved wearing the bucket hat. More recently, I’ve found writing to be more helpful, compiling a list of things I loved about my dad and noting down stories. 

As I continue to come to terms with the immense loss across the other side of the world from my family, the hat, that I no longer wear every day, isn’t going anywhere. Firmly planted on the desk beside my bed, it now serves as a reminder of the goodbye I wish I could have said in person to the man I wish I never had to say goodbye to.

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17 Pairs Of Black Tights That Will Save You This Winter

For those of us who refuse to let go of our skirts and shorts, even in the dead of winter, thick hosiery is the holy grail. And, even if you swear by pants-only during the colder months, popping a pair of tights on underneath is a ten-second lifesaver on those days it's just too chilly to handle.

Since they're our second skin during the months we'd prefer to hibernate, it makes sense that we're constantly in search of the best pair on the market. We need a pair of tights that's durable, thick, hopefully will last more than three wears without getting a run, and most importantly, warm. Thankfully, brands are keeping up and coming out with more heat technology options than we can handle (you're still our OG though, Uniqlo). Ahead are 17 pairs of tights that will get you through the worst weather this year. We recommend stocking up — it's only a matter of time until Snowpocalypse 2020 comes a-blowin'.



Uniqlo Heattech Cable Knitted Tights, $, available at Uniqlo


Smartwool IntraKnit Merino 200 Bottom, $, available at Back Country


lululemon Keep The Heat Thermal Tight, $, available at lululemon


COS Wool Tights, $, available at COS


Berkshire Plus Size Easy On! Thermal Plush Tights, $, available at Bare Necessities


The North Face Ultra-Warm Poly Tights, $, available at The North Face


Free People Blake Cashmere Tights, $, available at Free People


HUE Cable Sweater Tights, $, available at Nordstrom Rack


A New Day Flat Knit Fleece Lined Tights, $, available at Target


Anthropologie Fleece-Lined Leggings, $, available at Anthropologie


Hanes X-Temp® Blackout Tights, $, available at Hanes


Wolford Black Merino Wool Tights, $, available at SSENSE


ASOS CURVE 200 Denier Black Tights, $, available at ASOS


Falke Soft Merino Tights, $, available at Bare Necessities


Nike Nike One Luxe Plus Size Mid-Rise Tights, $, available at Nike


Plush Fleece Lined Tights, $, available at Shopbop


Angelina Brushed Interior Thermal Tights, $, available at Amazon


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HUE Cushioned Foot Tights, $, available at Zappos


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